If you are anything like me, and you are ambitious and driven and know exactly what you want and how you want it, then you most likely have controlling tendencies as well.
You’re not alone, I’m right there with you.
We try to control and plan and strategize everything, in the hopes that we get to determine the exact outcome of things.
But what we don’t often realize is that in that fear driven control (let’s just call it what it is), we can actually start to constrict ourselves to the point of anxiety and stress.
We actually end up blocking all the beautiful and unexpected opportunities and experiences from coming our way.
Whenever I find myself in a new environment or situation, I catch myself getting into a strategising and controlling frenzy.
And that’s not to say that there isn’t great benefit in strategising. I LOVE creating strategies, planning and creating space for good stuff to come to fruition – however – I also believe that for strategising to be healthy and effective, there absolutely needs to be an element of surrender and allowing. And THIS is where the need to control can become a problem.
When we feel the need to control every single aspect of our lives as well as feeling the need to control each and every outcome, we can actually end up BLOCKING all the goodness that’s already meant to be ours.
We get caught up in thinking ‘we’ know better. That ‘we’ should be the ones to determine how everything goes – because if we don’t do it, who will?
We do this to the point of inducing anxiety, stress and overwhelm.
We forget that we are part of a magnificent universal system, where there’s a natural order to things. Where we are designed to do well, to thrive and evolve into our highest possibility.
Where when we act according to our intuitive drive (create that strategy you feel called to create, or that plan your heart is telling you to set up) and then STEP BACK and allow things to unfold the way they are meant to unfold.
Trust that you are doing enough, trust that you ARE enough. Know that everything you feel called to do is part of an outcome that is so magnificent, you couldn’t possibly think it up yourself.
Live with intent – create your strategies – set up your plan – do your work, and then step back and ALLOW all your effort to be supported in ways you couldn’t even imagine…